Relationship & Intimacy Therapy in New York and New Jersey
You want to feel close. Then something changes in their tone and you’re wondering whether everything is okay. Or someone wants more from you and suddenly you need space.
Individual telehealth therapy for adults exploring attachment, trust, and intimacy. You can come on your own to work on what happens in your relationships.
Closeness can bring up more than you expected.
You need reassurance and feel embarrassed for asking.
You hold back what you want until you feel resentful.
You go quiet during conflict and cannot find your words.
You feel close one day and want distance the next.
You say yes to keep the peace and then feel far away.
You want intimacy, but being seen feels uncomfortable.
Relationship patterns deserve more than a label.
Attachment is one way of understanding how we experience connection. You may recognize an anxious or avoidant pattern, or notice different reactions with different people. A label can be useful without becoming a definition of who you are.
We can look at what happens when you ask for care, disagree, feel misunderstood, or need a boundary. Earlier experiences may help us understand those moments, but the work stays connected to your relationships today.
When trust and intimacy feel complicated
You can care about someone and still have a difficult time feeling comfortable with closeness. Sexual trauma, shame, expectations, and past relationships may be relevant. We can talk about them without assuming what intimacy should look like for you.
This work can include noticing your limits, finding words for what you need, and understanding reactions that seem to happen before you have a chance to think. We will discuss your goals rather than treat more closeness as the answer to every situation.
What we can pay attention to in therapy.
Bring a real interaction
We look at something that actually happened rather than trying to fit your relationship into a category.
Hear the different reactions
A part may want reassurance while another resents needing it. We can get curious about both.
Practice more choice
We explore boundaries, communication, and how to respond when a familiar fear shows up.
My approach is informed by IFS training, attachment-based work, and trauma-informed care. We discuss what fits your needs rather than follow a fixed sequence.
“I wanted support. Then I pushed it away.”
Maybe someone offered help and you felt irritated. Maybe you finally said what you needed and immediately wanted to take it back. We can look at what made receiving care uncomfortable without deciding you are simply bad at relationships.
Schedule a Free ConsultationYou don’t have to find the perfect way to explain it.
I’m Sury Klein, LMSW in New York, LSW in New Jersey, and CASAC-T. I work with adults navigating trauma, addiction, and relationship patterns, under LCSW supervision. My background includes Internal Family Systems training.
I ask questions. We can look at what happened this week, notice what came up between us, and discuss when something in therapy is not helping. Learn more about me and my approach.
Telehealth therapy in New York and New Jersey.
Sessions are currently online in both states. We can discuss availability, privacy for video sessions, and whether this practice fits your needs during a consultation.
Individual sessions
$200 for 50 minutes. Private pay; I do not accept insurance.
Free consultation
A 15-minute conversation to ask questions and discuss fit. No obligation to begin.
Finding the right support
If we are not the right fit, I can help connect you with another therapist.
Frequently asked questions
Can I work on relationship patterns without my partner?
Yes. Individual therapy can focus on your experiences, boundaries, and responses in relationships. You do not need a partner to attend to explore those patterns.
Does having an attachment style mean I will always be this way?
Attachment descriptions are ways of understanding patterns, not a prediction of every future relationship. We can explore what changes across situations and what you want to work on.
Can we talk about intimacy after sexual trauma?
Yes. We can discuss trust, shame, boundaries, and reactions to closeness at a pace we agree on. You do not have to begin with details of the trauma.
How do I ask about couples sessions?
Use the consultation or contact page to discuss current couples availability, suitability, and fees. The $200 fee listed here applies to individual 50-minute sessions.
Do you offer telehealth in New York and New Jersey?
Yes. I currently offer telehealth for adults in New York and New Jersey. I am an LMSW in New York and an LSW in New Jersey, and practice under LCSW supervision.
What does individual therapy cost, and do you accept insurance?
Individual sessions are $200 for 50 minutes. I do not accept insurance. A free 15-minute consultation gives us a chance to discuss fit, with no obligation to begin therapy.
Explore related therapy services
These concerns can overlap. You do not need to choose the right category before reaching out.
Read my therapy articles or explore resources for reflection between sessions.
A closer look at what happens around connection.
You may recognize something of your own experience in these articles.
Why do I shut down emotionally in relationships?
A closer look at emotional shutdown and the reactions that can make it difficult to stay present with someone.
Why can I want intimacy and still pull away from it?
For the confusing experience of wanting closeness and finding yourself needing distance when it arrives.
When you want connection but closeness feels scary
Thoughts on attachment, independence, and what can make receiving support uncomfortable.
Bring the question you keep coming back to.
You can tell me a little about what is bringing you in, ask about working together, and see how the conversation feels.
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